In response to my original post, Dumbing It Down, someone left what I think is a very insightful comment. My beef in the original post was that a friend told me to dumb down my profile, and not try and be so cute and clever. He claimed I'd get more responses. I, of course, refused, but the comment below explains intelligently why bland profiles might be the way to go (for some, not me). I've copied and pasted the comment below:
"Psychologists say that physical beauty represents something like the average of each feature in that society. I think that women are looking for certain average features, what they would call normal. To them average is beautiful: it's some kind of attraction to centrality. Common phrases are the currency of any online dating system. They are interpreted symbolically. When you move away from them you lose the rich ambiguity of a symbol. Women are very psychic. Symbols mean a lot to them. If you're outside the system of symbols you are not normal, for them, aka unattractive. Jdate is not a poetry competition, it is a community. You have to share in the communal rites if you want the girls, or else they'll all go the leaders - those central figures that incorporate all of the common traits of their society."
I'm more than happy NOT to be average and NOT to use common phrases, and NOT to share in the communal rites of being comfortable in jeans, and looking for partners in crime.
I'll now accept every ignored email, and declined IM with pride. If being boring and bland is gonna get me into the "Jdate community," I'm glad to be a "Jdate leper."
Thank you, kind commenter, wherever you are!