I've been doing an informal study of Jdate behavior.
My initial hypothesis: Jdate sucks.
I'm still within the parameters of my rehab program so I haven't logged on to email women, but I've been asking people, both males and females, what their experiences have been in terms of getting and giving responses to emails/IMs, etc. Obviously, this study is completely unscientific, and the margin of error is + or - like 100%. Nevertheless, I've gained some interesting insight.
Almost every guy I surveyed claimed they get almost no responses on Jdate. They don't send out as many emails or IMs as I do, but they claim to have a very low, if not, non-existent response rate. They too get ignored, declined, etc. Not surprising. Some of these guys were good looking and interesting, some not so much, but their results have been the same: Almost no responses!
What I've found even more fascinating, however, is that the women I've been speaking to claim that they often don't respond to men simply because they're "not in the mood." They claim to get so many emails, that they somewhat randomly choose the men they respond to. They claim that they may read a profile and see a guy's pic that seems appealing to them, but they won't respond for no other reason than they're "not in the mood." So my question is why the hell bother paying the monthly fee and spending all that time on the site, if you're NOT IN THE GODDAMN MOOD? There should actually be an "I'm not in the mood to respond to you" button women can click, if that's how they feel. Maybe I'll suggest that to the Jdate Board of Directors, if they're not too busy striking a deal to promote a new reality show starring Horshack from "Welcome Back Kotter."
As far as the theory that many people don't pay the membership fee and thus can't respond even if they wanted to, that's shot to shit. Almost everyone I spoke to that was active on Jdate, paid the fee. They all complained about it being too high, but they paid it. Plus, I changed my settings a while back so that I could see if women opened my emails, and roughly 90% did. (I cheated a little and logged on for the purposes of this study, but I didn't email anyone new so I haven't technically fallen off the wagon...yet!).
The final results of my study: Jdate still sucks, but maybe some cute chick who can maintain an intelligent conversation will decide she's "in the mood" to respond to me one day. Of course, by then, my membership will have expired and I won't be able to read her email. And then she'll write about what an asshole I am on her blog for not responding to her.
LOOKING FOR SOME MORE STUFF TO READ, WHILE AVOIDING DOING ACTUAL WORK? CHECK OUT MY NEW SITE AT: http://www.urirosenrauch.com