I never let my dates pay. Whether it's $9 at Starbucks on a first date, or $90 at a real restaurant on a second or third date, I always get the check. It's the gentlemanly thing to do so I do it. I'm not saying I like it, but I understand that it needs to be done. Once in a while, though, it's nice when the woman makes a fake reach for the check when the waiter puts it on the table. You know, that sort of half-assed reach where she says, "Oh, let me...," but then you cut her off, grab the check, and say, "No. No. I got it." At least when a woman does that, you know she's making an effort to let you know she understands dating isn't cheap and that she appreciates you paying. In the past, I've gotten lots of "fake reaches," and the occasional "Are you okay with that?" remark as I busted out my credit card. Lately, however, NOTHING. The check just sits on the table in that leather thing until I eventually grab it, and stick my Amex into it. Sometimes I grab it right away, other times I let it sit there waiting for the woman to maybe reach for it. But I've learned that if the woman doesn't "fake reach" for it instantly, it'll never happen.
Well, the latest date over the weekend didn't do the fake reach, which is fine, but if you're not gonna do the fake reach, then you must at the very least do the "fake thank you," which she didn't either. I figured maybe she was saving the thank yous for the end of the date. You know, "Thank you for dinner, thank you for a nice time", etc. But such was not the case. As I walked her to her building, all I got was a "Good night. Take care," and she was gone...kind of like my desire to ever call her again.