So I was checking my hotmail account the other day, and in addition to someone named Yvette offering me an "ass licking of a lifetime," I noticed one of those MSN articles on the homepage about dating. The advice given in those articles is usually so trite and eye roll inducing that I feel the same way after reading them as I do after channel surfing and catching a quick glimpse of "According To Jim"...unentertained and even a little angry! I personally know a couple of people that have written some of those "dating tips" articles, and they're as qualified to give dating advice as a $10 toothless hooker is to give a class on making good lifestyle choices.
However, this one particular article was written by someone who raised an interesting scenario... one that I've experienced, and I'm sure many others have as well. So much has been made of that "He's Just Not That Into You" phenomenon, that no one really discusses the "What if he IS into you, and you're into him, but you don't give him any signals that you are so he never calls again?" phenomenon. The writer of this particular article describes a date he went on where midway through, the woman shut down and started to make less of an effort to keep the conversation going. The guy felt that she lost interest so he too made less of an effort. The result was a bad date that resulted in no second date. Months later, the guy found out from a mutual friend that the woman was in fact interested, but she felt that the guy wasn't so she shut down and stopped making an effort. A perfect example of poor signal reading, and basic human insecurities leading to two people unnecessarily never pursuing what may have been a potential relationship.
So the next time some obnoxious ass munch with way too much product in his hair and a talk show that has no reason to exist tells you that some guy is just not that into you, maybe he's wrong. The guy may just think you're not into him...so let him know you are! You could do so with a subtle smile or touch of his hand, or send him an email like the one Yvette sent me.