I was speaking to a business associate/friend yesterday who's a divorced man in his early fifties. He too is on Jdate and we were comparing notes on our respective experiences. I thought he'd tell me that he was emailing lots of women and getting very few responses like I was, but such was not even remotely the case. He told me he never initiates contact with women, and that they email him...incessantly. He said within seconds of logging on, he gets inundated with IMs. In fact, he speaks to so many women at once, he can't keep track. I was initially stunned and quite jealous, and I told him so. But he set me straight right away...or more accurately, he gave me an idea.
He told me the 40-49 year old set were all too eager to grab up the guys on Jdate since they know their stock isn't that valuable. They wouldn't dare wait around for guys to contact them because they know most guys, like me, are going after the 27-35 year olds. He suggested that I raise my age limit to the above 40 crowd and see what happens. I generally like to set my age limit to no more than 35, 36 tops, but he insisted that I give it a shot, if for no other reason than to see what would happen.
We were in his office and he told me to log on to Jdate on his computer. I did, and I immediately found a woman who listed her age as 46. She was attractive, so I figured what the hell? She wrote that she was looking for a guy who was born during the Eisenhower administration, and I emailed her asking how she felt about guys born during the Nixon administration. I hit "send," and told my friend I'd probably never hear from her. Within less than a minute, after I refreshed the page, I saw that I had a new message. It was the 46 year old writing, "I have no problem dating someone born during the Nixon administration, if you have no problem dating someone who's really 54."
I thanked my friend for his advice, and found a 29 year old to email. I hit refresh around a dozen times after I emailed her, but no response. Almost 24 hours later, I've hit refresh many more times, and still nothing. I know I'd have more luck in the older pond, but I think I'd rather drown in the one I'm in now.