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Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Restricted Development

So I got the number of this chick through a friend. Now that I'm sort of off JDate, I'm doing the old fashioned set up thing. I'm not a huge fan of truly blind dates, but I figured what the hell? Can't be much worse than online dating. Plus, my friend and I have similar tastes in terms of what we're attracted to physically so when he said she was cute, I knew he wouldn't steer me wrong that way. The rest I'd have to figure out on my own on the first phone call.

I called the woman in question last night. We spoke for less than ten minutes before she told me she had to go to meet a friend. She assured me though, that she'd call me later when she got back. I said, "No problem. Let me give you my number." "Oh, I have it on the caller ID," she said, at which point, I internally sighed, immediately tore up her number, and was ready to do the same to the anus of the friend who gave it to me to begin with. You see, my number comes up as restricted. Unless her phone has some anti-call restriction feature, which allows her to actually see my number, this chick never saw my number. In fact, I don't think she even paid attention when I told her my name at the beginning of the call.

If she's not interested in being set up, fine. But why for the love of all that is holy is she allowing people to give out her number to random guys? The conversation was so short there was nothing I could've possibly said to offend her. In fact, for the 7 and half minutes or so that we spoke, she was laughing for maybe 4 of them...and not AT me, WITH me. I'm one of a dying breed of daters out there who actually knows how to be charming and interesting on the phone.

So does this chick not realize that I know that my own number is restricted, and that I know she was full of shit when she said she saw it on the caller ID? Have people become so lazy or socially inept nowadays that they can't even make a proper effort when blowing you off? What ever happened to pretending to write a person's number down, and then never calling back?

We're living in a society, people!

Anyway, I now have one more friend who is banned from ever setting me up again.

12 comments:

mo said...

the "pretend number write down"... I do it all the time with people I don't want to speak to. It's simple courtesy, which this chick was clearly lacking.

james said...

maybe she didn't actually look for your number on her caller id, but just assumed it was there. i haven't run into anybody yet that block there number on every call, though doing that alone seems like a good enough reason not to call you back.

sofie said...

Goodness, do you think you are overreacting? Like James said, maybe she assumed she had it and you could have just said, "actually, my number usually comes up blocked" instead of assuming the worst. Now that I write this I wonder, why do you always jump to the worst case scenerio?

Marc F. said...

James- Yes, blocking your number should be a criminal offense worthy of having no one ever call you back. I almost always call women from my cell, which is not blocked. I just happened to call from my home phone in this instance, which comes up as restricted. You can take that up with my phone service provider, if you take such issue with that.

Sofie, who doesn't look at he caller ID when their cell phone rings? That's the first thing everyone does. Plus, if you heard her tone and the way she was rushing me off the phone, you might side with me on this one. Maybe not.

Anonymous said...

Well, top this! A woman who stood me up at the last minute a few weeks ago emails me to say, are you still up for meeting. One born every minute, sure. Then she suggests, as we work walking distance from each other, lunch. A lunch date during the week, blackberry all abuzzing. Romantic potential? So, sez I, maybe an evening next week. Sure, she sez, but decide now because I book up fast. It felt like taking a numbered ticket in a deli.

Marc F. said...

"I book up fast"...like a Vietnamese whore in 1971 Danang. I love it!...If you decide to go out with her, please feel free to share what happens.

Dori said...

I agree with James. She probably just didn't think about the call-block possibility. Touch base w/ your friend and get her email address, and then send her a note explaining the situation. That way, you'll know if she was intentionally blowing you off. I also think you should cut busy girl some slack. She may really have a packed schedule, and she's making an effort to squeeze the guy in.

Marc F. said...

Let's put this to rest right now since I'm getting such negativity on this, and I may just cry like Iron Eyes Cody in the post below.

My friend was spoken to. He apologized profusely for her behavior after he spoke to the woman in question. She admitted to him that she felt pressured to give out her number and was never really interested in the set up or calling me back for that matter. So restricted or not, she wasn't interested. I just wish she had the maturity to say so BEFORE I wasted the time calling her.

As far as "busy girl," that's not my battle to fight, but you don't tell a potential romantic interest to "decide now because I book up fast." That's just freakin' obnoxious. There are a million different ways to have made the same point in a far less bitchy manner. For example, "I'd love to get together, but my schedule gets crazy so if you could let me know as soon as possible..." Isn't that so much sweeter and nicer?

Anonymous said...

Suddenly attention! After reading his very entertaining and wise site, I decided to improve my jdate profile. I added in some laughs and declared my true income level (Annual income: Over $100,000). Now the emails are pouring in.

Marc F. said...

Glad to hear it, anonymous. But doesn't it sicken you just a little that you're getting attention because of your income?

Jonny said...

Don't be naive guys,of course some women are going to make a beeline for you when they see dollar signs. Maybe that's how you can WEED them out.

Anonymous said...

i had a russian "gf" for 5 months--all about the money--she was attractive, but not nearly as attractive as she thought--probably spent 15K in 5 months--minimum--so selfish and self centered--i will never go near another russian--thet are 100% about the money