I stopped trying to figure out why people act like jerk offs on dating sites a long time ago. Having a woman initiate contact with me and then not respond to my response is now par for the course. The list of women who've volunteered their phone numbers and then not called back after I left a message is a mile long. Perhaps they have too many choices. Maybe it's a simple case of social ineptitude. Who knows? These things happen so frequently I've become numb to them. But just when I thought I've witnessed every inexplicable and inconsiderate type of online behavior, someone always manages to impress me by going that extra mile.
This woman emailed me with a pretty flattering message about how she loved my profile. It wasn't one of those generic "love your profile" emails. She actually referred to a number of things I'd written both at the beginning and end of my profile so I know she took the time to actually read the whole thing. I read her profile and it seemed like we had some stuff in common. I was about to respond to her when I noticed she was online. So rather than do the tedious back and forth email thing in order to get her phone number, I decided to IM her and try and close the deal right then and there. I'm not a real big fan of the pen pal relationship. I like to get the number and set up the date as quickly as possible, assuming, of course, there's a mutual interest. This wasn't going to be one of those women who needed to get to know me online for a month before she felt comfortable speaking on the phone. After what she wrote in her email, I was feeling pretty confident that I could get her number almost immediately.
Well, I IM'd her and got something immediately, but it wasn't her number. What I got was DECLINED! Somewhere between "I love your profile" and me IMing her the word "Hi," she changed her mind.... And once again I was left wondering why people act like jerk offs on dating sites.