tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post4046243920286004673..comments2024-03-01T07:33:26.975-05:00Comments on Diary of a Disillusioned Dater: The BeanieMarchttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00529663992761318061noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-1516343171653549292007-11-20T12:25:00.000-05:002007-11-20T12:25:00.000-05:00I guess this comes down to the ol' communication t...I guess this comes down to the ol' communication thing — someone, you, her, the matchmaker, should have made the rules clear so everyone could have made an informed choice on whether to meet or not.<BR/><BR/>That said, one you did meet, one or the other should have said (as soon as it became apparent that there was no "there" there): I don't think this is working well, do you? Nice meeting you, but shall we move on?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-70327658381709150152007-11-19T17:00:00.000-05:002007-11-19T17:00:00.000-05:00We've all been "chagrined" at the site of a blind ...We've all been "chagrined" at the site of a blind date we weren't into for whatever reason. That doesn't excuse acting like a child. I wasn't there either, but that's the sense I get from reading the description of the events -that this "woman" has a lot of growing up to do in terms of social decorum.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-2724848589435730562007-11-19T15:26:00.000-05:002007-11-19T15:26:00.000-05:00If she was willing to eat pastries in a non-kosher...If she was willing to eat pastries in a non-kosher restaurant she couldn't have been that orthodox. Even among the modern-orthodox many would not eat pastries in a non-kosher restaurant. Strictly speaking these pastries cannot be kosher. Also, there is an issue of 'maras ayin' - that people seeing a religion jew eating in a non-kosher restaurant might think they are eating non kosher food and conclude that it's ok to eat non-kosher food in a non-kosher restaurant.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-19993850153702586092007-11-19T14:24:00.000-05:002007-11-19T14:24:00.000-05:00NJG- I've commented on this past. No, they're not ...NJG- I've commented on this past. No, they're not all jerks, but what's the point in posting about a ho-hum date where nothing eventful or interesting happened? <BR/><BR/>As far as the orthodox chick is concerned, I understand her frustration, but she could have at least acted like a polite human being. She WAS a bitch. Trust me!Marchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00529663992761318061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-50693597174625417592007-11-19T12:06:00.000-05:002007-11-19T12:06:00.000-05:00Sorry I can't be one of the "yeah Marc, what a bee...Sorry I can't be one of the "yeah Marc, what a beeyatch!" amen corner this time, but as a beanie-wearer myself, I have to chime in my two cents here.<BR/><BR/>Though obviously I wasn't present, I doubt that this girl was truly a 'bitch'- though certainly there are bitchy frum girls. More likely, here's the situation: she was just as chagrined to find you sans beanie as you were to find that that was a requirement of hers. You must understand that for us beanie-wearers, dating a non-beanie-wearer (or non-beanie-requirer) is simply a non-starter. It just ain't gonna fly. So here she was, having met you for the date; she could have nixed it right away on first sight (maybe you would have preferred that), or, in the same spirit of "love thy neighbor" that you have invoked, she decided to make the best of it and sit and talk for a while. After all, you were both already there.<BR/><BR/>As far as the cafe thing, many more "modern Orthodox" will drink coffee from paper cups in establishments that serve actual <I>treif</I>. The reasons are a bit too complex to get into here and irrelevant anyway.<BR/><BR/>My guess is also that she wasn't offended by you, just chagrined at the situation, and probably planning her tirade to the mutual friend who set you up for wasting her time (and yours).<BR/><BR/>Which brings up the bigger issue: who set you up anyway? Seriously, Marc, you've posted more than a few tales of clueless-friend setups before. Maybe you should be fishing in different waters. <BR/><BR/>And, while we're talking about it, I've wondered before: you never seem to have any good dates. Are you just not posting them, or is it possible that <I>every</I> person you go out with is somehow a jerk?Nice Jewish Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08143569412761938449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-74791660265014088162007-11-19T11:57:00.000-05:002007-11-19T11:57:00.000-05:00...why were you two set up in the first place?! An......why were you two set up in the first place?! And yeah, I'd have to agree with Isaac and Rebecca... though I wouldn't call her a bitch because I actually have a dog that's a female. She's more like an idiot with a pole up her ass.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01844742305066932775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-35494113909428651832007-11-18T20:16:00.000-05:002007-11-18T20:16:00.000-05:00I've always found those types of cafes very curiou...I've always found those types of cafes very curious. I'll be sitting there eating a dish with bacon in it, or something equally as unkosher, and at the table right next to me is an orthodox couple on a date. Something doesn't seem right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-62010901525224087592007-11-18T12:36:00.000-05:002007-11-18T12:36:00.000-05:00I agree with Isaac, what a total bitch, don't use ...I agree with Isaac, what a total bitch, don't use that matchmaker again!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-66427205023368032042007-11-18T12:33:00.000-05:002007-11-18T12:33:00.000-05:00This chick is a bitch, but whoever set you up shou...This chick is a bitch, but whoever set you up should've told her you weren't orthodox, and you that she was.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com