tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post251175859205545112..comments2024-03-01T07:33:26.975-05:00Comments on Diary of a Disillusioned Dater: CHEERLEADERSMarchttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00529663992761318061noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-8682686497951613002010-04-27T16:36:23.002-04:002010-04-27T16:36:23.002-04:00Well, if not nurture then nurse?Well, if not nurture then nurse?Yentlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-74583086250201320002010-03-11T03:27:08.064-05:002010-03-11T03:27:08.064-05:00Hm I really don't like the gender stereotypes,...Hm I really don't like the gender stereotypes, as in, "it is in the woman's nature to nurture". No. Women have the ability to procreate. The nurturing part, especially outside of mother-offspring relationship, is very much a gender role and therefore highly subject to inter individual variability.Dark Cloud Ninehttp://www.darkcloudnine.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-11110558709724514632010-02-27T02:13:01.841-05:002010-02-27T02:13:01.841-05:00There are a lot of people who seek cheerleaders a...There are a lot of people who seek cheerleaders and this is not exclusive to romantic relationships (I know because I have ended up being the cheerleader more times than I can count). And I am a woman. Yeah, I admit that it was usually female friends and family members that I ended up cheerleading for, but there have been men, too. I don't do that anymore. I've been sucked dry and now *I* need a freakin' cheerleader. Instead of over-burdening my poor husband (and being his kid instead of his wife - gross!), I got a therapist. So far it's worth the money.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-41037450908786381152010-02-24T11:17:01.589-05:002010-02-24T11:17:01.589-05:00Hmm, it sound like your male friends are finding t...Hmm, it sound like your male friends are finding the wrong women to date.<br /><br />If a woman (or a man) is repeatedly kvetching about <i> whatever </i>, there's a bigger issue going on. <br /><br />Nothing wrong with helping a loved one sort it out or being supportive while he/she figures it out him/herself, but there's a point at which validation should be left to parking garage attendants.Kat Wilderhttp://katwilder.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-86864715015282288892010-02-23T00:01:09.248-05:002010-02-23T00:01:09.248-05:00I am a man. And the only thing I look for on my da...I am a man. And the only thing I look for on my dates is emotional validation. Never happened yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1001907574085269502.post-71081269101173726972010-02-19T13:59:51.626-05:002010-02-19T13:59:51.626-05:00Hearing complaints about the same thing, repeatedl...Hearing complaints about the same thing, repeatedly is tiresome. It is one thing with a girlfriend, but it is even worse with a woman who is not yet your girlfriend, who you have only just started dating.<br /><br />Using someone as a sounding board needs to and should wait until a relationship is well established.<br /><br />I hate to reenforce that Debra Tannen BS, but men aren't women. <br /><br />We communicate about an issue to problem solve. We don't talk about it to get or give emotional validation.<br /><br />We can handle that just the same, but not as much as a woman can without feeling dragged down or anxious.<br /><br />I can handle being there for someone special. However, if they are going to need emotional validation about the same issue, repeatedly, on an ongoing basis they should find a girl-friend or a shrink.beforewisdomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08025636743890242228noreply@blogger.com